Never underestimate the power of the Holy Spirit and your role in the life of someone that God has brought into your sphere of influence.
I have been serving God by serving His people for several years. Older women, authors, Bible teachers, speakers, and close friends have poured biblical truth into my life. So what I am sharing with you did not originate with me. The following words of wisdom came from many women who have spoken truth into my life over the years. I give them all the credit.
Several thoughts to consider when serving people
in the name of Christ:
“If your gift is serving others, serve them well.”
-Always point others to Jesus and away from yourself.
“He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” (John 3:30)
If you have the gift of pastor/shepherd be reminded that people need the Great Shepherd, Jesus, more than they need you.
-Always point others to God’s Word, the Bible.
“Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” (Psalm 119:105)
Learning to apply God’s Word to every aspect of your life produces much emotional and spiritual stability and growth.
-Set healthy boundaries. You should not be available 24/7.
You don’t want a co-dependent situation to arise. Again, always point others to Jesus first.
-Talk less and listen more.
“You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak…” (James 1:19)
-Avoid trying to say something profound to fix a person’s problems.
God uses problems and pain to propel people towards Himself. Trying to rescue people from pain may actually be a hindrance to what God is trying to do in their lives.
-Assess willingness to change.
“…let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” (Romans 12:2)
If a person is not willing to change then your counsel falls on deaf ears. It is not your job to get a person to change attitudes and behaviors. It’s God’s job.
-Don’t let prayer be your last resort when getting involved in the life of others.
“Never stop praying.” (I Thess. 5:17)
Make prayer a priority right from the start and watch God work!
-Be careful that you don’t carry the burden and responsibility of a person’s problems alone.
“Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you.” (Psalm 55:22)
-Allow others to be a part of the solution.
“Share each other’s burdens…” (Galatians 6:2)
“Many hands make the workload light.”
-Don’t pass judgment.
“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1)
Don’t make assumptions, or give advice quickly.
-Give God time to work.
“For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what please him.” (Phil. 2:13)
-Your presence in a person’s life is valuable and important. We truly are God’s hands and feet here on this earth.
-When serving others pride is always lurking at the door waiting to make you feel more important than you really are.
-Confidentiality is critical to building and maintaining trust between you and the individual you are shepherding.
-Intervention is necessary when it becomes evident that a person is causing harm to themselves or another; and/or if they are in a dangerous situation.
-Don’t rush in and rescue an emotionally wounded person. Sometimes God does His best work when a person is at their weakest point in their life.
-Count it a privilege if God gives you an opportunity to be a part of the healing process in someone’s life.
“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others…” (Mark 10:45)