“The family should be a closely knit group. The home should be a self-contained shelter of security; a kind of school where life’s basic lessons are taught; and a kind of church where God is honored; a place where wholesome recreation and simple pleasures are enjoyed.” ~Billy Graham
Our youngest child is finishing her junior year in high school. After almost 30 years of parenting, we are a year away from graduating our fifth child from high school.
I remember when the children were young and I use to wonder what it would be like to be an empty nester. My friends and I would talk about all the things we would do and get done once all our children were out of the house. Fun things like lunch dates, matinee movies, coffee dates, shopping together, etc.
The house is already quiet.
I have plenty of time to do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it. Yes, it’s a nice feeling. I do miss the structure and the routine though. I try to recreate it, but it’s hard when I know I don’t really have to.
Now that that time is fast approaching I feel differently than I thought I would. My identity as a mother is changing. Even my role as a wife is changing. I wonder what I’m going to do with myself? Many of my peers are already starting to find jobs outside of their homes. It gives me much to think about.
I’ve been a wife and mom for 30 years. We want to continue to invest in our young adult children and eventually grandchildren. John and I love when our adult children come home for a visit. When they just want to hang out and eat my cooking. When they linger at the table and talk and laugh and share family stories.
We learned early on that their hearts never really leave home. We seem to have a revolving door and we love it. They care about what we have to say now and they even seek our opinion and advice sometimes.
We see clearly that influencing our children will be lifelong. What a beautiful way for God to redeem the areas we missed in their formative years and beyond.
Adult children are and continue to be a gift from the Lord and they certainly are a reward from Him too. (Psalm 127:3)
So our nest is almost empty.
But the chicks know where they can fly to and land safely and softly whenever they need to.
I’m looking forward to spending more and more time with John. As God has closed opportunities that I have sought after He has made it clearer and clearer what He wants me to be involved in in the short term for sure: my family, those who are in difficult marriages and need help and most recently writing. My desire is to make writing a career. As long as this is part of God’s plan for me I will pursue it with enthusiasm.
“Trust in the Lord and do good.
Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.
Commit everything you do to the Lord.
Trust him, and he will help you.”